September 4, 2015
You are growing up in a culture that has perverted, distorted and degraded the precious gift of marriage and sex. Societies have gone through this time and time again. God destroyed Sodom and Gomorrah for their love and embrace of homosexual sex and rape, which was a total rejection of God. Queen Jezebel convinced her subjects abundant sex, including orgies, would make them closer to the gods. In Greece, before the fall of the Roman Empire, both single and married males were expected to take a young boy as a lover. In fact it was considered abnormal if they didn’t. In the 60’s America was introduced to ‘free love’, where even couples were encouraged to have open marriages allowing multiple sexual partners at their spouse’s blessing. So what constitutes a proper marriage and use of sex?
Islam commands that the wife is property of the husband. In fact, any male family member has dominance over the women, including sons over mothers. Women cannot get a passport on their own, drive a car or show their face. Husbands can beat their wives if they do not submit to their sexual advances. Fathers can commit a mercy killing if their daughters kiss a boy. Females are punished if they leave the home unescorted by a male. Mothers are forbidden to correct their son’s behavior and punished for doing so. Males are allowed to rape and molest children while wives are stoned to death for committing adultery. In fact, under Sharia Law, a female rape victim should be murdered for having sex out of wedlock. ISIS members pray on their knees before and after brutally raping girls as young as 9. During the assault they whisper in the girls ears that Allah not only gives the man the right to do this, but it will make the man closer to Allah.
The secular world is trying to remove marriage from society and pushing the concept of ‘free love’ harder than ever. We are inundated with images in magazines, music, TV, and movies where sex has become a casual past-time instead of a beautiful, loving act between a husband and wife. (see Marriage Is What Brings Us Together Today)
In the 50’s, Lucy and Ricky in ‘I Love Lucy’ had single beds that you rarely ever saw them in. Fifty years later, sitcoms make jokes that characters switch partners so quickly they didn’t even have time to change the sheets. Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie are held up as a model Hollywood couple despite the fact their relationship began while he was still married to Jennifer Aniston. Furthermore, Brad and Angelina were praised for refusing to get married, even though they had several children together, until homosexuals were given the same opportunity.
Today’s youth are being fed a steady diet of sexual immorality. It is promoted that it is natural to sleep around as long as you make sure to ‘protect’ yourself. Feminists, under the guise of sexual freedom, promote birth control as a right that others must pay for, including abortion. Murdering unborn babies is not birth control or taking responsibility. It is an abomination of God’s purpose for us.
Feminists supported and applauded Sandra Fluke in 2012 when she demanded the government provide free birth control so women can be sexually promiscuous without taking personal responsibility. As accepted fashion designs get skimpier and more revealing, sexual freedom is deemed victorious. Society then demeans and degrades the male population as they increasingly view women simply as sex objects. Women demand they be allowed to have sexual freedom and then are furious when a man sees them that way. They are horrified when boys who are excited by girls flaunting themselves around, actually respond to the girl’s advances. Rape is never acceptable but society ignores the danger girls are putting themselves in. You can only dangle meat in front of a lion and deny him access for so long before he attacks.
In the secular world, responsibility, commitment, and humanity have been irradiated from people's view of one another. We are brainwashed to believe that our only service is to ourselves. Others are there solely to please us. It’s no excuse but it’s no wonder more and more males are seeing females as nothing more than a conquest, just like in the animal kingdom. They are not living, breathing human beings who should be loved and honored.
In Christ’s kingdom, we are shown the truth. Throughout the Bible, the relationship between Christ and the church is compared to a groom and his bride. Prophets like Isaiah continually warned the people of Israel about “prostituting” themselves with other gods. God considered their worship of these false gods as infidelity.
Jesus said, “and the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one flesh.” (Mark 10:8) Paul wrote in 1 Corinthians 6 why this relationship is so important. A human’s body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, bought at a price through the blood of Christ. “All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body.” When two people come together, they make “one flesh, But whoever is united with the Lord is one with him in spirit”. The two people make an everlasting bond. Those choosing to sleep with multiple partners are damaging their souls, whether they are heterosexuals or homosexuals. When a couple splits, that bond is fragmented. When this is done multiple times, the body and soul become severely damaged and splintered. No wonder so many people feel so broken, hollow and alone these days.
Ephesians 5 explains God’s intent for a husband and a wife. First, Paul instructs both parties to “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.” Our first requirement is that neither party be superior, but each partner should be submissive to the other. He then specifically coaches each spouse, starting with the wife. “Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.” Many feminists use this passage to accuse the church of oppressing women and allowing the man to be dominate, yet claiming this completely ignores the first “submit to each other” command.
If critics were to continue reading, they would realize that God has an even stricter directive for the groom. "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church-for we are members of his body. 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.' This is a profound mystery-but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband." (Ephesians 5:25-32)
If anyone has a “War On Women”, it would be those who have willingly divorced themselves from God’s intention for marriage. They fail to realize that God is not making the man a dictator as Islam does, but gives the couple a recipe for a relationship that requires both parties to work responsibly together in their respective roles, be forgiving, and be representatives of their faith. How can a man love a woman he just met in a bar? How can a woman respect a man who left her bed before the sun came up?
If critics would take the time to honestly study the love and devotion God commands us to give to our spouse, they would realize their impression of God is not at all what they thought. If a woman respects her husband, she will trust his guidance. If a man loves his wife, he will consider her thoughts and feelings in his leadership. Like Christ, he is to be ready and willing to lay down his life for her. You don’t sacrifice yourself for someone you consider property. You sacrifice yourself for what you hold dear, for what you cherish and put on a pedestal, just as Christ did for us. If people would only follow the commands of God, domestic violence would be non-existent.
We, as the Christian Church, are the bride. Christ is our groom. But there is a third participant in marriage - God. Christ tells his disciples that there are many rooms in His father’s house “and if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come back and take you to be with me that you also may be where I am.” (John 14:3) The bride and groom will live in God’s house. He is an active member in the marriage bond. Jesus commanded, “Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” (Mark 10:9) The state doesn’t unite the couple, God does. This makes him, not the government, party to it. (see Marriage Is What Brings Us Together Today)
At the time of Christ, when an engagement was announced, the groom would leave and prepare a home for him and his new bride. Even though they were just engaged, the promised commitment was still as binding as a marriage. When the house was ready, the groom would return for a wedding ceremony and feast. The newlywed couple would then depart to their new home. When Christ used this analogy, it was a vivid description on how He views His relationship to the church. First, He and His bride are committed to each other even in His absence. Second, He was going to leave for a time to prepare our home in Heaven. Third, He would return to gather His bride and take her to His father’s house.
Liberty, your father and I will do what we can to shield you and protect you from what God has told us is a very harmful and dangerous behavior, but the decision to reject this conduct will be yours. I was fortunate enough that I had parents that let it be known to me that these types of activities are not God-pleasing. I decided early on that I would follow God’s plan for me and not society’s. I prayed many times for a good, God-fearing man that would love Him as much as I did. God answered my prayers and your father and I have been together for 27 years. While many of our friends were experimenting with sex and some getting pregnant, your father and I had decided long before we even started dating that we would hold to God’s loving intent for us.
Satan is working hard, though, while our groom is away to entice us in any way he can. He wants us to forget about Jesus. He wants us to forget our vow and seek the pleasures of other gods, whether that be money, fame, vengeance, or flesh.
You will be tested and because you are a child of God, Satan will target you even harder. Our prayer for you is you will stay strong. Find strength in God’s word and seek guidance from us and other family members, your pastors, and other believers in troubling times. Study, ask questions and seek answers. Know what you believe and hold firm.
I am so thankful I made my decision early to follow God’s plan for marriage. I have never regretted it. It would have been very easy to fall to temptation if I had not. Both your father and I had wonderful examples of loving, Christian parents and grandparents. I pray your father and I are as good of examples as our parents were, and will be for you.
That’s my 2 cents.
SEX, LIES & MARRIAGE